How My First Birth Shaped How I Care for You
Before I became a chiropractor for mamas and babies, I became a mother myself. My birth story with my first baby, Hyland, was anything but easy and yet it forever shaped the way I show up in this world and in practice.
At 36 weeks, I began experiencing unexpected vaginal bleeding. It was enough to concern my care team, and I was told to come in right away. The hospital I had planned to deliver at was full. I found myself admitted to a different hospital where I didn’t know a single provider. It felt like my husband and I were suddenly on an island, trying to make decisions in an unfamiliar place with unfamiliar faces.
Doctors immediately ordered an ultrasound, concerned about a possible placental abruption. While the scan showed everything was normal, I remember the doubt that crept in. Deep down, I felt that my baby was okay. But the "what ifs" were loud, and the clinical pressure around me made me second guess my intuition.
Without clear communication, a C-section was scheduled on my behalf something I only found out about by chance and was able to cancel in time. Still, I was kept on hospital bed rest for a full week, simply waiting to reach what is considered "full term" at 37 weeks.
Once I hit 37 weeks, I was induced. Wanting a natural birth as much as possible, I started with the least invasive options. But my body and baby were simply not ready. Labor progressed slowly and required hours of intense pushing. Ultimately, I delivered vaginally with the assistance of forceps.
Hyland was born healthy, but shortly after, I experienced a severe hemorrhage. In the rush to care for me, they took Hyland away. It was a surreal, emotional moment joy and fear colliding all at once. I was so grateful she was safe, but the separation and trauma of that moment left a mark I carry to this day.
What That Experience Taught Me
That birth taught me about strength. About surrender. About listening to my intuition even when things felt chaotic. It showed me the cracks in our current system and reminded me how deeply women need to be supported, heard, and seen in the birthing space.
That experience is why I do what I do. It’s why I create a calm, supportive environment for every mama who walks through my doors. It's why I focus on education, gentle touch, and a space free of judgment or fear.
It’s why I advocate for listening to your body because I know how easy it is to doubt it when the pressure is on.
Whether you're preparing for your first birth or navigating postpartum with a newborn in your arms, know that you don’t have to do it alone. I’ve been there. And it is my honor to walk alongside you with compassion, clarity, and care.
With love and understanding,
Dr. Bishop Van Schalkwyk
